21.10.08

world war II

It began in 1939 as a European conflict between Germany and an Anglo-French coalition, but eventually included most of the nations of the world. It ended in 1945 as the most destructive war in human history, leaving a new world order dominated by the U.S. and the USSR.

i hate WAR... it leads to numerous kind of 'ILLNESS'....
The fact was that only time would tell how people would react to the postwar period.

APOCALYPTO


the best movie i've ever seen....... APOCALYPTPO....
The film begins with an onscreen quote from Will Durant: "A great civilization is not conquered from without until it has destroyed itself from within." i love the stunts, the theme of this story and the cast.... this movie is about human sacrifice.Apocalypto is a 2006 epic film directed by Mel Gibson . Set in Mexico's Yucatan peninsula during the declining period of the Maya civilization. Apocalypto depicts the journey of a Mesoamerican tribesman who must escape human sacrifice and rescue his family after the capture and destruction of his village. Two thumbs up from me....

what makes u angry???

You can get angry when:
Someone takes your turn while you're waiting in a queue.
You have alot of work to do on your computer. When it starts to slow down, you will become
stressed then angry.
When you're in a team and you find a team member neglecting his work and leaving the burden to the rest of the group.
When you feel
afraid! Yes, anger could be a consequence of fear. An easy example, when someone nearly crashes into your car, you get mad and shout at him. Why did you get mad? Because you were afraid that your car would get smashed. So in this case your anger was a result of being afraid.
When someone makes fun of you.
When you get scolded by your superior at work.
When your boss gives you load of work to do.



angry????? feeling so tired can make us prone to be angry, rite? i'll not teasing my friend if she/he is in the bad mood... huhu... relaxation can helps us to control our emotion...

20.10.08

guilty!!!!!!

The longer you put off dealing with guilt, the weaker you feel. You feel guilty when you've done something wrong. That's a healthy guilt that keeps your behavior in check. But when guilt doesn't come from your own actions, you torture yourself. Follow these steps to deal with your guilt.
Stepl The first step in dealing with unpleasant emotions is to let them run through you. They'll only come back bigger and stronger if you try to ignore the pain.
Step2Take a break from your guilt and let your subconscious work on it. Do something relaxing like gardening, sports or something creative.
Step3Make a list of the things that bother you in all aspects of your life. Consider what activities give you pleasure and which ones make you feel worse.
Step4Consider people close to you and how they figure into your guilt. Be ruthless about identifying toxic relationships.
Step5Apologize to whomever you hurt, even if it's been months or years. Write a detailed letter of regret if it's no longer possible to make amends in person.
Step6Seek counseling for the guilt you're feeling about things that are beyond your control. Explore issues of low self esteem, perfectionism and anger you're harboring against anyone who wronged you long ago.
Step7Make a list of affirmations that can help you in dealing with the guilt like "I'm allowed to be happy," "I'm allowed to be free" and "I'm allowed to forgive myself."




hurmmm... guilty? sometimes, it haunted me a lot.When I’m doing something wrong , i'll feel so guilty for a long time even it's not my intention to do it.... i have to forgive myself and promise not to do it again.... learn from my mistake... if we're responsible of other's suffering, do apologise.... 'repair' all the mistakes as good as we can...

STRESS!!

when being under stress, your mind's resources become locked up
you can feel stressed when being pressurized by lots of tasks that you have to complete,by lots of unfinished work that should be done before a certain amount of time passes or when being under some kind of pressure for a long period of time.
If you noticed yourself while being under stress you will find yourself unable to accept any external influence even if it was very tiny like a little noise caused by your kids to an extent that you may end up shouting at them.
When you are under stress your mind's resources become locked up and busy processing something else and that makes it hard for you to accept any other external input or influence.



don't let stress masters ourlives... when i'm under stress, i'll become a very quiet person..talk when people talk to me... i'll do something to release my tension such as watching movies.. it will helps me to wipe my stress away.... it's very hard for me to tell anybody about my problem.. if i can't stand it anymore, i'll tell the person i trust about my problem.. just need someone to hear my prob at that time... LAUGHTER...the best solution to overcome stress......it's very hard to laugh when having a big problem but i'll try to do something to cheer me up....

SCHOOL DISCIPLINE:

AFTER reading about the attack on the teacher in Kangar ("Teacher kicked, slapped by two Form 2 girls" -- NST, Oct 17), I have to ask: what is happening to our education system? What have we done wrong that things can turn out to be so bad?
I am a 40-year-old working mother of four children. I was locally educated up to high school level before completing my degree abroad. All my children attend government schools as I believe the local education system is one of the best in the world. Over the years, I have noticed how parents become so over-protective of their children and often are quick to blame the overall system if their children do not do well in their studies, or, worse, they take the teachers to court when their children are "punished" in school for their wrongdoings. Teachers these days are scared of the students. What has happened to us, parents? How can we be so gullible as to think our children could never tell a lie just to escape the punishment they deserved?Of course, it is right that we should be a caring society. At the same time, we must be practical and use our common sense on the issue of discipline in school. The need for this must be accepted by all parents who want to see their children grow up to become decent and responsible citizens. There's no two ways about it.
Without a proper disciplinary system enforced in every school in Malaysia, we can be assured of a chaotic school environment such as that we already seen in some countries like the United States.When I was a student in the 1980s, the teachers had the authority to discipline the students and parents never questioned this.I also clearly remember how I was slapped by my religious teacher together with another two classmates for supposedly laughing at him while he was cleaning the blackboard at the start of the subject session, even though we explained that we were laughing at one of our classmates. Yet, I didn't dare tell my parents about the incident -- though I strongly believed I had done nothing wrong -- because I knew my parents could have meted out more punishment if I had told them I was punished by a teacher in school. Back then, parents had total trust in teachers.A few years ago, I met the teacher who slapped me. He barely recognised me when I said hello but immediately recalled the incident the moment he realised who I was. He admitted he should not have done what he did. Had the incident happened in recent years, I bet the affected teacher would have been questioned by the police or suspended from his work, or expelled from the teaching profession.I became who I am today all thanks to the education system which was practised in those days. I contribute in my way to nation-building, pay my taxes and zakat when it's due and I don't see why as parents we must become "kiasu" if teachers in our children's school take certain actions simply to instil better values and proper discipline in our children. As parents, we must instead provide as much support as possible to the teachers who, we hope, will make sure our children are properly educated and become good citizens eventually.

http://www.nst.com.my/Current_News/NST/Tuesday/Letters/2380560/Article/index_html


i'm totally agree with the writer.... parents nowadays love to blame teacher rather than their children even their children deserve punishment... Complaints from parents divert teachers and the school administration from their normal duties. sometimes, we have to back into reality... teacher will not punish the students without any reason... be rational... i think Malaysia has a better school dicliplinary system than other country...Teachers, parents and students should work like one big family to improve the quality of education.

dealing with the arrogant people.....

The best way to deal with an arrogant person is to understand why he is being arrogant. This may sound odd, but the truth is, as soon as you know the reason behind his arrogance you will pity him.
Arrogant people think that they are always right, they think that they know the best answers to all life problems and they think that they are better than most of the ordinary people. Arrogance is no more than a shield that covers inner emptiness and sometimes an inferiority complex.



arrogant people can really get on my nerves and driving me crazy with their arrogance..huhuhu...i've experience with this kind of people... just let they talk and never show that you are mad at them...because that is what they want.. they love to make people mad... just smile and be a secure person... heheh... NEVER ever show that you are afraid of them....

how to be happy??

How to be happy in life
The following is not a magical formula for happiness nor it’s a guarantee for feeling happy however if you followed those steps they could have a dramatic change on your happiness levels:
You can only experience one emotion at a time: A general rule for emotions is that you cannot experience more than one emotion at a time, for example if you were stressed you cant feel happy and if you were
depressed you cant feel motivated. So based on that information one of the main tasks you should do if you want to be happy is eliminating all of your bad or unwanted emotions, just write down the emotion that is currently preventing you from feeling happy then read about it as much as you can, seek someone’s help if you couldn’t get rid of it alone and do your best to eliminate it, by getting rid of these unwanted emotions you may not feel happy immediately but you would have opened the door to happiness by removing the first barrier to it.
Know what makes you happy: As I said happiness is perspective dependant, so if you want to be happy you should first know what makes you happy, just try to visualize the thing that if happened you will become happy, and upon finding that thing fight for it, and I really mean It, fight for it until you get it.
Positive thinking and optimism: You may have asked yourself, could I feel happy while having a major problem that I don’t have a solution to? Yes you could, by knowing that one day this problem will be solved, this is what is called
positive thinking, optimism or hope. Learning how to be a positive thinker will open the door to hope and so to happiness.
Happiness and religion: This point is just a sub point of the previous one, simply because nothing could make become an optimist or a positive thinker more than believing in a higher power that is there to help you, and this case this high power is God, if you have the belief that someone will save you then you will be a positive thinker and your big problems will seem to be a temporary issue.
Happiness and life purpose: Having a life purpose may not make you happy on its own but not having a life purpose could make your life a misery, lots of people commit suicide because they don’t know why are they here nor what they should do in this life. If you want to be happy then seriously consider finding a life purpose








how to be happy? thank God, i'm happy and satisfied with my life... i have my super duper family, clan and friends beside me... i just be myself... Believe in God..that's the best tip ever......'eliminate' all the problems..huhu... May Allah bless me throughout the years....

feeling bad?

Heal your wounds
Courage is not the absence of fear but it’s rather the ability to face your problems even if you were afraid to do so. Some people try to
forget about their old wounds, their bad past experiences and the things that bothers them instead of dealing with them.
Some people
aren’t satisfied with their weight or body image, but they keep burying the problem as if its not there. And when someone reminds them of it, they feel so bad.
Some people aren’t satisfied with their social status; others are feeling bad because of not being able to
quit a certain habit while a third group feels bad because they of not being able to stand up for their rights.
So the question is, why do these people feel bad all the time? Simply because they find lots of things on their way that reminds them of their wounds. Taking the guy who is not satisfied with his weight as an example, as soon as he encounters any of these situations he will start feeling bad:
Seeing Someone who has an ideal weight
Seeing A beautiful girl
Meeting Someone who tells him that he needs to lose weight
When dressing up
When meeting new people
When people look at him
As you can see these situations are found every few minutes and as the person goes through his day he will feel bad on encountering each one of them. Now what if that person had another problem like not being able to make friends? This will add more items to the list of the things that bother him.




hahah... feeling bad all the times? life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, do not waste our time to think about all the problems every minutes ... yeahh... it doesn't mean we can't face that problems .. just take it as simple as we can... i hate to talk about my problems at all the times.. huhuhu... sometimes, i wont let people know what i feel inside... some people aren't satisfied with their lives... there are lots of people outside that less fortunate than us... do satisfied with our lives and make it better... no turning back... just keep yesterday in our memory... think about tomorrow....

child abuse

What Are the Types of Abuse?
Hitting, constant yelling, or unwelcome touches can all be kinds of abuse. A kid who is being abused can experience different types of abuse or just one kind. It helps to understand the different types of abuse: physical, sexual, verbal or emotional, and neglect.
Physical Abuse: Physical abuse is hitting hard with a hand or an object like a belt, especially hits that leave bruises or cuts. Shaking, pushing, choking, painful grabbing, and kicking can also be physical abuse.
Sexual Abuse: Your body has private parts. These are the parts that are covered by your bathing suit or underwear: breasts, vagina, and bottom for girls, and penis and bottom for boys. If an adult or older kid touches a kid's private parts or tells a kid to touch theirs, it is sexual abuse. When this happens, the abuser might tell the kid that this touching is a secret and that they can't tell anyone. But a kid does not have to keep this secret. Tell a trusted adult, or more than one, until someone takes action.

Verbal or Emotional Abuse: This kind of abuse can happen without touching. It can be verbal abuse if someone yells all the time, calls the kid mean names, or threatens to leave the kid or have him or her adopted. All kids deserve to have adults in their lives who love and support them as they grow up. It's common for parents get angry with their kids once in a while, but if there's yelling, punishing, and threatening too much of the time, a kid can start feeling really bad about himself or herself. And just like with physical forms of abuse, it's a good idea to tell a trusted adult this is happening.

Physical Neglect: Neglect happens when kids live in a home where the adults don't give them basic stuff that all kids need — like food, clean clothes, and a bed to sleep in. When parents or caretakers neglect kids, the kids may not get baths, sleep under warm blankets, or get checkups or medicine when they need them.


well, for me, child abuse is a very bad scenario that happens nowadays.. We often hear horrific stories of children being beaten to death, tortured, sexually abused and more....i wonder how the family could be so hurtful to the kids that should be under their custody actually.. family should keep vigilance on them....the effects of being abused are so devastating...we have no idea how difficult for that kids to go through their lives....

16.10.08

first time...........

First time being here, I could see my future journey in ump, which I have to adapt well. from outside, I was amazed by its crowded blocks... actually , UMP has a fascinate view , only for the students that have explore it..hehehe... entering to my room, I was shocked to see my pathetic room. but thank God, I get good roomates . and frankly, I have to say this, I have super duper sectionmates. our lecturer are very committed.unfortunately, no flip flops in the class..hehehe... too soon to tell about the results.. cant wait to finish up this semester....

8.10.08

suri cruise....



she's so adorable.... love keeping her photos.... so cute.....


quotes ......

i love quotes so much.... let me share some of the quotes i ever had......

"The best proof of love is trust."Joyce Brothers

"What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Test fast, fail fast, adjust fast."Tom Peters

"Who bravely dares must sometimes risk a fall."Tom Bradley

" The day after tomorrow is the third day of the rest of your life. "george callin

"Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love."Albert Einstein

"All men face mountains, but the ones with faith move theirs!"Adeleke Olugbenga

"Fear of failure must never be a reason not to try something."Frederick Smith

7.10.08

bad habits!!!!

there're numerous kind of bad habits such as biting nails, overeating, lying and interrupting people.... We may be loath to admit it, but most of us have at least one bad habit...me also......

When a habit is negative, it hinders or harms.We have all done our best to stop it, we have all felt the pain of the emotions that arises from doing what we don’t want to do.

Bad habits may cause us to miss opportunities, avoid certain situations and even give others misleading information about us...there are bad habits which really do harm to our health and put us at risk of becoming ill, and developing diseases.. those are something to be avoided...

we have to fix our bad habits to ensure a better life...it may takes a long time but please do give ourselves a chance to fix that habit..do not gambling our lives just because of our bad habits...